Tag: society

I’m switching the roles

Childhood is when we learn the most.
We are not born racist, prejudice, or ignorant.
We are born with a blank chip and our parents, friends, schools, and society are what make us.
If you’re a parents with good intentions, it can be a bit hard to raise a child in today’s society, but if you don’t push to try and lead them down the right path then you have just become a part of the providers of garbage that society feeds our kids.

I don’t have kids of my own yet, but when I do, I have decided I’m switching the roles on them.
Everyone’s life goal in this world is to find happiness.
Usually happiness in the mind of a woman comes to the conclusion of having a husband, kids, a beautiful home, and a nice future with these people along their side.
Men also aspire for marriage, but unfortunately most of them weren’t taught the same value and importance behind it.

Sadly this seems to be the reason why today’s generation is so caught up in “situtionships” 

Parents didn’t stress this enough and society has taught men to play games until THEY are ready, leaving more girls and women crying then ever before.

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, otherwise they will threaten “the man” and push him away.

And the only reason why men actually feel this way is because we teach men that they should always be above, or one step ahead of the woman, and if they are not, they have failed.

We teach girls to aspire to marriage, to make their life choices always keeping in mind that the main and most important goal is marriage.
We tell them that marriage is the important source of joy, we tell them that it will bring them the love they desire and the mutual support they need to feel complete.
This can be very true, and having a successful marriage with happiness should be apart of their goals but we shouldn’t teach them that it will be their only source of happiness.
If so, shouldn’t we be teaching it to our boys too?
Why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are because they will be frowned upon, but we teach boys that being sexual and having that kind of “game” is a good thing.
Don’t we see who we are hurting?
Women are crying, but men aren’t learning to appreciate the women the universe brought to their lives to complete them.
The universe keeps bringing these men their other ribs, soul mates, “the one” and they take them for granted because “they are not ready” to let the game go.
Because they were not taught to cherish “the woman” when she comes along.

If I bring children into this world I am making a promise to switch these roles.
I will teach my son how to love, I will teach him that if the universe (or “god” for those who believe) brings him a good girl/woman, he must appreciate her and respect her if he loves her. He must not lie, he must not play games, or take her for granted as long as she is giving him the same respect.
I will teach him that if she isn’t, he has the right to walk away like a gentleman with out cheating, betraying, and lying.

I will teach my daughter how to love, and to always cherish and appreciate “the man” that the universe (or god) brings into her life with out giving him everything she has. I will teach her independencey, I will teach her to have something to show for herself without losing herself in society and forgetting to have self respect.
I will teach her that her voice matters, and she has the same rights as everyone else.
I will teach her she is equal to a male NO MATTER what others say, and that she should do ONLY what makes her happy, despite of what others say.

I will teach my children, that happiness and love should be an equal goal in both of their lives, because without it, living is useless and boring.

-Kbeautifulmind

Communication in a Relationship

How do you better communication in a relationship?

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The thing is we are all different. No two people are the same and if we do find someone with a lot in common, we get turned off anyway, or they become our Best Friends.

So, because of this we all evaluate our affections, believes, costs and rewards differently.
I know what you’re thinking…
“Then how will we ever get along?”

Well its simple, but it takes practice.
You want to MIRROR your partner…
How so?
You want to understand that if you have chosen this person to have a committed relationship with then you want to mirror their way of dealing and seeing their affections, believes, costs, and rewards.
You don’t have to “change” your own ways, you have to “mirror” as in…
ACCEPT
AND
RESPECT
If you mirror your partner, and try to understand their true way of being, then that’s where the communication improves.
How so?
Well, you are no longer clashing against them which means you are growing with them,
hand in hand,
like a real TEAM.
-Kbeautifulmind

Cinco de Mayo, not, Cinco de Drinko…

I actually can’t stand today, for the name it has received of “Cinco de drinko”
It makes me want to tell people to STFU.
But whatever, that’s Merica for ya!😂
In the words of my mom…
“Idiotas!”

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A little bit of history for you guys…
Cinco de Mayo is a day to celebrate in Mexican history, The Battle of Puebla took place on this date, 152 years ago.

The Battle of Puebla was a battle fought on May 5, of 1862 between the armies of Mexico and the Second French Empire, resulting in a major victory for the Mexicans who with considered inferior forces managed to defeat one of the most experienced and respected armies of the century.
The battle did not stop at the invasion of Mexico, it only delayed it for a year, when the French came back with 35,000 troops and took over Mexico. However, the French were eventually defeated and unconditionally withdrew from the country in 1867.

The victory on the Battle of Puebla is important as it symbolizes what unity could achieve for Mexico.
Important facts to remember:
-Cinco de Mayo is NOT independence day for Mexico.
-Puebla is a Mexican State.
-Mexico defeated the French in which seemed a beyond unlikely win for Mexico.
-No, the Chupacabras does not deliver gifts in Cinco de Mayo.
-No, Margaritas were not invented on Cinco de Mayo -No, its not a tradition where everyone makes tacos and salsa on Cinco de Mayo

Happy Cindo de Mayo!
Salud!🍻💚🍻❤
-Kbeautifulmind

“Forever be what I need myself to be”

I’ll forever be what I need myself to be, and nobodies stopping me.
For no words, thoughts, or actions from those who spread poison can affect me.
You see, I’m not your ordinary woman.
My heart grew more intact as the result of my battles.
I some how survived and became immune to all the struggles.
And yes the tears will still appear at times, but don’t let that be a sign of weakness, it only shows I still got feelings.
Being able to feel in a life as hard as this one is a blessing as well as a choice.
For I have chose to take my struggles and let them build me, instead of break me.

-Kbeautifulmind

My concept behind the value of relationships

When I was younger, I did not believe in 2nd chances.
The minute you crossed me or disrespected me…

1. I’d cut you off
2. You became the enemy
3. If you really pissed me off, I was probably trying to kick your ass. (I was crazy and lacked of maturity)

So many around me didn’t understand my concept, I even had someone once make fun and call me a “homie hopper.”

Then with time my concept changed a bit, if you are farely NEW in getting to know me I use the 3 strike rule…

Its simple…
3 strikes you’re out!

If you’re pass the 3 year mark, you don’t get 3 strikes, you go back to the first method ☝ (Don’t worry, I retired from fighting, I now have karma handle my light weight.)

Anyway till this day my concept doesnt make sense to a lot of people, I had a friend tonight ask me…

“Why? Why do you go about relationships this way?”
And well this was my answer.

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If I let you into my life and allow you to know me, it’s a privilege.
God didn’t choose you for me, or else we’d share blood and I’d call you family.
Instead I call you friend or lover because God put you in my path, but I chose that you could stay.
Therefor I voluntarily decided to allow myself to trust you, open up to you, show you and share with you who I am, and let you in with out any boundaries.
I have let you see me naked(If you’re a lover emotionally and physically), inside and out.
If you’ve been around for years and our involvement has increased, so have my expectations and the value I give you.
If all of a sudden you decide to betray me, hurt me, cheat me, or lie to me.
Don’t expect forgiveness or for me to understand why you did it.
In my eyes and beliefs, there is no excuse and or reason good enough that you can give me that will make any sense.
Seeing that you know me so well by now and what I represent, yet you still didn’t care enough to consider my feelings, only shows me my worth and what I actually mean to you.

-Kbeautifulmind

-Kbeautifulmind