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Find hope and have faith,
and never let it go.
Hello Dear WordPress Followers,
I’d to take this moment to thank you all for reading my work, for being fans of what I write and believe in since I created my blog.
I’d also like to address that I’m working on writing more this year, expanding my words to touch more lives, and to share that I have some new and fun exciting project ideas on the way!
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I hope you all will follow and join me in this exciting journey!
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Thanks y’all! I’m excited!
Avoiding discomfort won’t teach you anything. Trying to understand the discomfort will help you learn.”
My book is now available to order… and I might barf…
At exactly 10:49pm I opened up the email that stated the proof of my book had been approved by create space. 😱
Ladies and Gentlemen… my first book is now up for sale! 🤷🏻♀️
I don’t know what to think, I honestly feel like I need to barf (tmi) BUT really… 🤢
I wrote it and self published it, and it’s something so intimate and personal that I don’t know what it will represent… 😳
But, I’m proud and I’m ready! 💁🏻💖
Get your copy at: https://www.createspace.com/6684982
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I want to love you, like you deserve.
Be that person in your life who inspires you, and makes you better.
I want to love you, because you deserve it.
I still laugh…
I still laugh at the day it happened.
So much cowardly in one phone call.
Promising me that with time we would meet again, that someday our love would continue.
I rememeber laughing that day as you stated your pathetic promise of “we will meet again,” as you used it to justify your decision to throw it all away.
What you didn’t rememeber is what kind of woman you had been with, what kind of woman you had known for over so many years…
I already knew you and what you were capable of.
I knew everything you did to the girl before me,
and I knew what you had done to me.
I already knew about her.
I knew I was being replaced.
Yet I played along and said,
“Yeah, maybe we will. The world is round for a reason right?”
I still laugh at the day it happened, because even though I listened…
I was praying our paths would never cross again.
*Old piece I never posted:)
What causes significant others to act “crazy”
I have the worst cough of life currently and this morning, I just didn’t want to go to school.
My professor is a bit of a push over when it comes to attendance and she takes points off your next exam if you are not attending class. (What are we? High school students?)
So… I made the best of it, got up and took my little bottom to class.
I sat in traffic for about an hour only to arrive to school to see a note on the door that said…
“Class has been cancelled”
My first thought…
“ARE YOU F#$*in’ kidding me!?”
I wasn’t upset because class was cancelled, I was up set because there was a “paper” that notified me instead of a morning email, or Black Board post.
But, I didn’t let it ruin my day.
Instead I took advantage of the moment and went into the Financial Aid office as I had been meaning to ask them a question about my loans.
Sorry I’m rambling on…
Anyway, as I stood in line minding my own business, looking into my three email accounts, my blog traffic (all you cool people reading), Twitter, Instagram, and even Facebook (I rarely go on Facebook)…
I over hear the conversation in front of me…
This guy was on the phone and all I could hear was him say…
“Are you serious Ann? I was in class and since I am already hear I decided to stop by the office, I am not lying to you. When you ask where I was, I really was in class! Do you need a picture or something?”
The the woman on the other end of the phone said… “No… maybe, well just tell me the truth next time.” (You’d be surprised how loud some phones are now in days)
He clicked on her, and embarrassingly looks at me and says… “She’s “crazy,” she wants a picture of me at the fafsa office!?”
I couldn’t help but answer and say… “Is that what she said?”
He said… “No, well she said maybe but, REALLY!?”
I shrugged my shoulder and said… “Has she always been this way? or what did you do to get there?” (The shrink in me made me say it.)
In that moment I realized I was getting too involved and he realized he was being too open to some stranger.
“I’m sorry, I apologized, don’t answer that… but good luck.”
and… I went to ask the lady the question I had.
I left and that was the end of that.
Well of the conversation, at least.
On my walk back to my car, I thought about it and said; “Poor guy…”
I also remembered I’ve been there and know a lot of men and women who have been there too.
Not all at the same extremes but, I think a lot of you can agree… many of us have been there.
I felt so bad for “Ann” and this random guy because they were unhappy and their relationship was suffering, the same way my previous serious relationship once was…
You see, I believe trust is like a piece of paper, once its crumbled, ripped, teared…
no matter how hard you try to straighten up the paper it will never be back to the form of when you first had it.
However, I am a big believer in building it up to almost perfection and moving forward with it.
So… to the topic…
What is it that causes significant others to act “crazy” or to check up on each other to the extremes of asking for proof, or checking emails, calls, text messages and social media?
Well there is…
- The person did something for you to miss trust them, like (cheating, lying, etc.) so you now feel like anything they say is not true. (I’ve been here)
- Your insecurities are so low and you have trust issues from previous relationships so you act like your walking on egg shells from the start of the relationship to make sure that you are five steps ahead of them.
- You have cheated yourself or been a constant liar that you know what “people” are capable of… (This is guilt by the way)
- You been hurt, plenty of times, or very badly so you believe that EVERYONE is going to hurt you, or “All MEN/WOMEN are the same”
and of course there is many more…
but my focus here is; How can we change this?
How can we build that trust so that we are not like this with our significant other or so that we are not like this with someone new?
Well… here is my perspective on it…
- So you been cheated on, lied to… but you love him/her and maybe you feel that it was a one time mistake. You want to move past it and work on bettering your relationship…
After all, that’s why most of us stay right?
At least it should be, however most people don’t stay because they truly love the person. They stay because they are insecure, they don’t think they will find anyone better, or they don’t like change and breaking up with someone you have build so much with and starting over is a bit scary. Right?
I’ve been there, but if these are the reasons why you are staying… DON’T.
I’m not telling you to give up, if you think you can work through it, then do it!
But if you are going to be like “crazy” Ann, you will only be hurting yourself in the long run. Because that person may truly be sorry for what they did, and they will do all they can to prove it to you but you will never fully accept their apology.
Because you are sticking around for all of the wrong reasons.
They say “Love can conquer all”
and I believe this is very true…
when there is true, genuine, and honest love, you CAN over come anything but it has to be real!
You have to be willing to truly forgive them and move forward together.
2. Your insecurities are so low and you have trust issues from previous relationships. You act like your walking on egg shells from the start of the relationship to make sure that you are five steps ahead of them.
There is no harm in this, right? Your’e looking out for yourself, what’s wrong with that?
Well for starters, it’s not fair to the new person.
It’s like punishing someone for a crime they never committed.
To top it off, your insecurities poke out through your clothes, and there is nothing more un attractive than this kind of “crazy.”
No one new in your life, trying to get to know you wants to hear, “All women are sluts,” “All men cheat and are dogs.”
It’s flat out, gross and a turn off.
YOU ARE KILLING THE MOOD
To top it off, this person likes YOU, they WANT to get to know you, don’t they deserve to know the best side of you or the best you can be and have to offer them.
So if this is you, you are not ready to move on.
Take sometime to yourself and tame that crazy.
Build up yourself esteem, forgive the one/ones who hurt you, learn to love yourself again, and change that mind set.
Make yourself realize that you are NOT walking on egg shells and that you are going to be alright.
Accept that the world does have crappy people, but there is also a lot of good men/women out there that will not hurt you.
3. You have cheated yourself or been a constant liar that you know what “people” are capable of…
This one is just sad.
You need to understand not everyone cheats and lies.
and if you have always been a constant cheater or a liar, than you need to work on that and yourself to figure out why you do it.
If you made a mistake ones, stop with the guilt trip. Accept you made a mistake in your past, move forward from it and don’t make the mistake again.
It’s about believing in yourself again, building that self love that will help you make better choices and will help your partner also accept that you are a changed person.
Being afraid someone will do to you like you did to them and someone else… well it’s pretty normal because with all do respect… karma is a b#%ch.
But if you continue to live in that fear of “when” is karma going to get you… well you are not living.
It’s not fair for the other person.
4. You been hurt plenty of times, or very badly so you believe that EVERYONE is going to hurt you, or “
All MEN/WOMEN are the same”
Alright this one drives me insane!
First of all it’s such a turn off, and it’s the one that alerts people about you the most, it’s like wearing a sign on your four head that says “I AM INSECURE,” or “I AM DAMAGED”
The thing is we’ve all been here. Getting hurt freaked stinks!
Nothing about getting cheated on, rejected, or lead on is fun… NOTHING.
But, it’s also life! You must be so comfortable in your own skin (build self love) to accept that, nothing is forever, people can and will hurt you but, you can’t go your whole life mad at the world for it or holding every other human being accountable for the mistakes of others.
It makes you UGLY.
and no one, I mean NO ONE wants to be with someone ugly.
You can be a 10+ on the out side, the hottest man/woman that walked this earth…
but if your insides are “ugly” you just became like a -5
So how do you fix this?
Well, first off stop categorizing everyone into titles because they remind you of the past or because of what you’ve been through.
You know the saying… “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover”?
Apply that to your way of viewing people and accept that yes in deed they have the same chance of hurting you just like the last person did, BUT they just might not.
Second of all… two words… ” Self Love”
There is nothing hotter/sexier than a person who loves themselves, is confident, and KNOWS that they are amazing, that what they have to offer is good, and that if in deed the person rejects them, hurts them, leads them on, or cheats/lies to them…
Then it’s their lost…
and in this moment you should know the difference between a “mistake” which people do make…
someone who just doesn’t care about you.
That’s when you can decide to walk away and allow yourself to find someone better, someone worth it, or you can maybe see that they made a mistake and they indeed do love you…
and maybe they are worth the second chance?
The ball is in your court…
Just stop being “crazy” and by crazy I mean stop blaming others, punishing others, and hurting them as well as yourself.
It is not fair to YOU or THEM.
You both deserve to be happy, no matter who hurt who.
Until next time,