Category: Inspiration for women

If you’re sharing it, you ain’t winning.

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Unfortunetly in today’s time, we are all to blame for the way people hurt each other and compete for something or someone that isn’t even worth the fight.
Today relationships are losing their meaning because no one is committing anymore, and “couples” are now stuck in “situationships” for months on end…
Why?
Well…
No one appreciates what’s in front of them, people have no self respect anymore, or respect for others.
Everyone is trying to keep their options open, yet treat all their options like they are the only one.
There is men/women who lead on other women/men, into making them believing that they care, into making them feel special and manipulating them into falling for the potential they are, yet not letting them know if they will ever actually be something more.
Yet the way they treat you, tell you they care, hold you, kiss you, and sexually please you, you can’t help but fall.
So what happens when you fall?
Well you become competitive, you get jealous, you want to be respected as the only one like you are being treated, and now the fight starts with “the other women/men.”
However, the one person who started it all, sits back and can’t seem to understand what the problem is…
What the problem here is that people date now in days with out committing.
They date multiple people, to see what they want, yet they hurt people as they go.
People have become so selfish, and the victims have become options.

You’re texting one girl and putting heart emojis on her pictures and making endless love with the other while cuddling and kissing her on her four head on your bed.
You plan weekend get aways with one, as you tell the other one you will be coming to visit soon.
You tell one you really care about her, and ask her questions about a future, and who knows what you are telling the other.
So what’s in it for the competitors?
Nothing.
Chances are he is eating one girl and kissing the other.
Chances are she is treating one like a king and using the same ideas on the other guy.
So what do you do if you are stuck as the competitor?
You don’t compete!
Plain and simple!!!
You can either accept that you have become an option for the future and take your chance to win them over and just have your fun OR you let them go and find someone that will appreciate you and give you the commitment that you want.
Commitment or not, love is a battle field but a battle to win over not to litterly fight others for it.
Fghting, talking shit to and about the other is not going to get you anything.
Besides making you look like a total idiot.
Bragging how you’ve had him for over months on end only makes you look stupid if you never got the commitment.
Remember, love yourself first, know your worth and place, and trust your heart abd what you bring to the table. If they stick around and appreciate it good, but never compete for them.
Remember as long as you are sharing you are definetly not winning.

-Kbeautifulmind

Woman Crush Wednesday
You give her a shout-out, you say she’s the one.
But what does that do when your screwing other ones?
got damn you got nerve…
Choose one, stick with her, man prove something!
Don’t be lying on her, woman can see your bull shit.
She has stuck around because she cares, not because she’s dumb and doesn’t know the games you’re playing.
If you can’t man up then let her go, and watch someone else appreciate her.
Don’t lose her, she’s YOUR girl!
Do you care?
Your heart would never lie to you.
Listen to it.
There will always be plenty of bad chick’s out there, but you’ll never be happy till you love one.
-Kbeautifulmind

I’m switching the roles

Childhood is when we learn the most.
We are not born racist, prejudice, or ignorant.
We are born with a blank chip and our parents, friends, schools, and society are what make us.
If you’re a parents with good intentions, it can be a bit hard to raise a child in today’s society, but if you don’t push to try and lead them down the right path then you have just become a part of the providers of garbage that society feeds our kids.

I don’t have kids of my own yet, but when I do, I have decided I’m switching the roles on them.
Everyone’s life goal in this world is to find happiness.
Usually happiness in the mind of a woman comes to the conclusion of having a husband, kids, a beautiful home, and a nice future with these people along their side.
Men also aspire for marriage, but unfortunately most of them weren’t taught the same value and importance behind it.

Sadly this seems to be the reason why today’s generation is so caught up in “situtionships” 

Parents didn’t stress this enough and society has taught men to play games until THEY are ready, leaving more girls and women crying then ever before.

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller, otherwise they will threaten “the man” and push him away.

And the only reason why men actually feel this way is because we teach men that they should always be above, or one step ahead of the woman, and if they are not, they have failed.

We teach girls to aspire to marriage, to make their life choices always keeping in mind that the main and most important goal is marriage.
We tell them that marriage is the important source of joy, we tell them that it will bring them the love they desire and the mutual support they need to feel complete.
This can be very true, and having a successful marriage with happiness should be apart of their goals but we shouldn’t teach them that it will be their only source of happiness.
If so, shouldn’t we be teaching it to our boys too?
Why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are because they will be frowned upon, but we teach boys that being sexual and having that kind of “game” is a good thing.
Don’t we see who we are hurting?
Women are crying, but men aren’t learning to appreciate the women the universe brought to their lives to complete them.
The universe keeps bringing these men their other ribs, soul mates, “the one” and they take them for granted because “they are not ready” to let the game go.
Because they were not taught to cherish “the woman” when she comes along.

If I bring children into this world I am making a promise to switch these roles.
I will teach my son how to love, I will teach him that if the universe (or “god” for those who believe) brings him a good girl/woman, he must appreciate her and respect her if he loves her. He must not lie, he must not play games, or take her for granted as long as she is giving him the same respect.
I will teach him that if she isn’t, he has the right to walk away like a gentleman with out cheating, betraying, and lying.

I will teach my daughter how to love, and to always cherish and appreciate “the man” that the universe (or god) brings into her life with out giving him everything she has. I will teach her independencey, I will teach her to have something to show for herself without losing herself in society and forgetting to have self respect.
I will teach her that her voice matters, and she has the same rights as everyone else.
I will teach her she is equal to a male NO MATTER what others say, and that she should do ONLY what makes her happy, despite of what others say.

I will teach my children, that happiness and love should be an equal goal in both of their lives, because without it, living is useless and boring.

-Kbeautifulmind

She made a promise

She made a promise to herself, not because she wanted to shut and lock all the doors to love.

She made this promise because the pain from the games were still too raw.

She knew her worth, exactly what she wanted, and what she very well deserved.

So she laid her offer on the table and walked out that door with all the hurt.

As she shut the door, she felt the fear drifting and a proud feeling in her chest.

She knew that if she kept her promise, it would all be worth it in the end, for the one who got to taste her body again would be the one to never hurt her or let it end.

-Kbeautifulmind

“Forever be what I need myself to be”

I’ll forever be what I need myself to be, and nobodies stopping me.
For no words, thoughts, or actions from those who spread poison can affect me.
You see, I’m not your ordinary woman.
My heart grew more intact as the result of my battles.
I some how survived and became immune to all the struggles.
And yes the tears will still appear at times, but don’t let that be a sign of weakness, it only shows I still got feelings.
Being able to feel in a life as hard as this one is a blessing as well as a choice.
For I have chose to take my struggles and let them build me, instead of break me.

-Kbeautifulmind