Birthday’s are a reminder of what we have become.They are the celebration of the new mile stone that will begin, as we continue to proceed with our goals of who we want to be, and the memories we want to leave people with.
Ruin my red lip stick, make it dissappear with your sweet kisses.
I want to be the only one in the room to grab your attention. The one that shows up and makes the rest of these females irrelevant. I want to be your best friend, the only person who best understands your energy and needs. The one that means so much to you, that even when I’m not around you’ll live to respect and please. I want to be your smile, happiness and what makes you feel complete. I want to build a bond so strong that nothing in today’s society can ever break us up. I want us to have the honesty, respect and trust that people envy. I want to be the one you never get bored or tired of, and no matter what life throws at us, I want to be the one you’ll never give up on.
Unfortunetly in today’s time, we are all to blame for the way people hurt each other and compete for something or someone that isn’t even worth the fight.
Today relationships are losing their meaning because no one is committing anymore, and “couples” are now stuck in “situationships” for months on end…
No one appreciates what’s in front of them, people have no self respect anymore, or respect for others.
Everyone is trying to keep their options open, yet treat all their options like they are the only one.
There is men/women who lead on other women/men, into making them believing that they care, into making them feel special and manipulating them into falling for the potential they are, yet not letting them know if they will ever actually be something more.
Yet the way they treat you, tell you they care, hold you, kiss you, and sexually please you, you can’t help but fall.
So what happens when you fall?
Well you become competitive, you get jealous, you want to be respected as the only one like you are being treated, and now the fight starts with “the other women/men.”
However, the one person who started it all, sits back and can’t seem to understand what the problem is…
What the problem here is that people date now in days with out committing.
They date multiple people, to see what they want, yet they hurt people as they go.
People have become so selfish, and the victims have become options.
You’re texting one girl and putting heart emojis on her pictures and making endless love with the other while cuddling and kissing her on her four head on your bed.
You plan weekend get aways with one, as you tell the other one you will be coming to visit soon.
You tell one you really care about her, and ask her questions about a future, and who knows what you are telling the other.
So what’s in it for the competitors?
Chances are he is eating one girl and kissing the other.
Chances are she is treating one like a king and using the same ideas on the other guy.
So what do you do if you are stuck as the competitor?
You don’t compete!
Plain and simple!!!
You can either accept that you have become an option for the future and take your chance to win them over and just have your fun OR you let them go and find someone that will appreciate you and give you the commitment that you want.
Commitment or not, love is a battle field but a battle to win over not to litterly fight others for it.
Fghting, talking shit to and about the other is not going to get you anything.
Besides making you look like a total idiot.
Bragging how you’ve had him for over months on end only makes you look stupid if you never got the commitment.
Remember, love yourself first, know your worth and place, and trust your heart abd what you bring to the table. If they stick around and appreciate it good, but never compete for them.
Remember as long as you are sharing you are definetly not winning.
Nothing makes sense sometimes…
“Why do people enter our lives?”
Why do things happen to us?”
I use to sit there and I’ll admit I still do at times and tell god, or who ever is up there that can hear me…
“Have I not been through enough?
I mean we been getting it since I could remember life?
Don’t I get a break?
Is there no happy ending for me? For us?”
But then time gives us the answers we need, and helps us understand why exactly is it that some people don’t stay in your lives, why you went through the life struggles you have been through, why you were given such responsibilities, and even with time as much as you don’t want to accept it, the death of your mother begins to make sense.
It’s all a part of life.
So I keep going because I still believe in happy ever after, in meeting my goals, my dreams, having my own family someday, meeting the one who just knows he wants to love me and only me for the rest of his life as we watch our little stinkers live and BE wonderful from that love we share.
I still believe in people, in their hearts, in their pain, and most of all I still believe in myself.
After everything, I believe in ME, and I know my time is coming, the day I can look up and say…
“This is it! Everything I deserve is right here!”
Remember guys, even when it doesn’t make sense, someday it will!!!
Sometimes the best teacher’s are ourselves going through something. Real life will teach you more than a class, the hard times will be some of the best lessons you’ll have and life will be the hardest test you’ll be put through, but it’s up to you to push through.