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True capacity of living

When you have come to realize that your happiness is internal, you have reached the true capacity of living.

You have found that that the external forces of this world are irrelevant, and completely out of your control.

You have found that they do not bring or create your internal happiness.

You have found that only you can decide what you make of this life, and how far you are willing to go to succeed and accomplish all of your dreams.

You have found that you are enough and do not acquire anything to feel complete.

When you have come to realize that your happiness is internal, you have come to realize that you are free from expectations or desires to be able to live.

When you come to realize that your happiness is internal, you have reached the true capacity of living…

and you are now complete.

-Kbeautifulmind

 

What is Chemistry?

Ever kissed someone and felt like the world stopped right in your tracks?

A feeling so deep that feels as if there has been some kind of chemistry you’ve never felt before?

OR…

Ever kiss someone that could be perfect for you. You seem to have so much in common with the person, and they are the ideal person you want to build a future with but, all you feel is sexual excitement? As if anyone else could give you that feeling because you are just horny? Not exactly a connection?

I’m sure most of you have answered yes to both of them.

My friend and I were talking about Chemistry between two people and the difference of it with soul recognition. We wondered how exactly that worked and if maybe we are too picky as we are both people that wish to find the person that makes us feel a unique chemistry as well as comes along and excites our soul.

So it got me thinking, and asking myself…

“Kelsey, have you met any one of your soul mates?”

I’m honestly not sure if I have.

and if I have, the only person closed to being one of my soul mates was my H.S sweet heart.

But if my ex-boyfriend wasn’t my soulmate, what was he?

and… what was the guy I dated after him that gave me similar feelings as I had once felt with my first boyfriend, but even better.

and… Why would I feel that way if him and I weren’t anything serious?

and… why is it that any of the guys I’ve dated and talked to since, can’t seem to make me feel the same?

Could I be shutting down and not allowing the feelings?

or

is there really no chemistry at all?

My mom use to tell me that we have three soul mates in this life…

My friend agrees.

I also heard from a man once… “Every man gets three great women in his life. One of them is usually his mother, so if he’s already had one good one, he better not screw it up with the next one because she could be the last one.”

So, what exactly is chemistry?

well, weather you believe in soul mates or not…

I’ve come to discover, that I believe that when souls recognize each other, thats what makes the chemistry.

I believe that maybe you do have a couple of soul mates and that not all of them are technically put in your life for sexual/romantic relationships.

You see, chemistry is important.

It’s indescribable.

You can feel it when you meet someone and like them, no matter the gender and “how” it is that you like them, and you can feel it when you don’t like someone or can’t seem to stand the person at all.

Therefor,

I believe that chemistry IS soul recognition.

Our souls were meant to recognize certain people with an importance that tells your body and mind “this person is one of us, this person would be good for our life.”

Chemistry is what makes these magical moments. It’s beautiful, wonderful, and uncontrollable.

You can’t fabricate it…

It’s what makes that kiss feel like the world has stopped in your tracks.

A feeling so deep and full of chemistry because you were meant to connect with that person in this life time…

So how could you be meant to only feel that three whole times in your life?

In my belief … Impossible.

-Kbeautifulmind

 

 

December hasn’t changed…

December hasn’t changed, it all still looks the same.
They still light the trees, and there is Christmas music everywhere.
There’s red, white, and green shining in every corner, and the people still look “crazier than ever.”
But, I wish you were here…
And I wonder what Christmas in heaven is like?
Here on earth it feels like everything good is missing since you left.
It all looks the same, nothing has changed but, there’s an emptiness.
The spirit is there, it just doesn’t feel as strong and my joy varies depending on the day.
They still make midnight mass as beautiful as ever, and the choir sounds magnificent just as you’d remember.
But, I wish you were here…
And I wonder what Christmas in heaven is like?
I hope you’re singing in the angel’s choir, and enjoying the presence of our dear lord saviors child.
I’ll bet you’re enjoying Christmas carols with your friends and father.
and I’m sure you decorated a fabulous tree, and made a pretty mean feast.
December hasn’t changed, it all still looks the same.
But, I wish you were here…
And I wonder what Christmas in heaven is like?
-Kbeautifulmind

Stop aging, and start growing.

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Ever wonder why some people are less mature than other people of the same age?
Now, there is nothing wrong with a woman/man that can be a kid at heart at the right time.

I personally will forever enjoy sitting on a swing at the park, or filling up some water balloons in the summer and having an epic water balloon fight.

Anyway, I’m talking about those people that even though they have aged by the years, they continue to react with ignorance to different life situations.
I mean, I’ll admit I am guilty of stooping down to the level of some of these people sometimes…
(I’m sure we all do it)

However, in my defense I usually don’t start anything.
For the most part, I try my very best to stir away from immature people.

Anyway…

I’m
talking about those who have aged but, still have not grown to take responsibility for their own actions or mistakes.

I don’t know about you guys, but every time I encounter people like this I ask myself… “Why?”

I learned the other day, that these people may have a birthday every year but some of them do not necessarily allow them selves to grow from the year they got to live.
They don’t allow themselves to learn from their mistakes, nor to take the life lessons they have received and grow from them.
Instead, some of these people continue to allow themselves to play victims, to act like it’s everyone else’s fault why things happen to them, and to make themselves believe that if they ignore the issues they have encountered or the issues they have with themselves… it will all just “poof” and dissappear.

If you are one of these people, sorry pal, it doesn’t work that way!

Not only do they do this but some of them also allow their experiences to become so profound and they still won’t address them.
Instead they store them in and lock them up.
Only later realizing how much this way of living has hurt them and stopped them from growing as a person.

So I say…
“Stop aging, and start growing!”

As you evolve over the years as a person, you must confront your issues with personal growth. If not, you are aging but you are not growing. This is the only way to actually be able to live and have the opportunity to really look back and say…

“Wow, look at how far I’ve came, look at how much I’ve changed, look at how much I’ve GROWN.”

My mom always said…
“If one person says it, they are just being nasty. But if multiple people say it, over, and over, even the ones you know truly love you… then you might have some self observing to do.”

So with that said, pay close attention to yourself and who you reflect as a person. 
Don’t go changing yourself just because one person told you there is something wrong.
Take in the criticism and see what it means, if changing would better you as a person, and if it’s coming from a person that matters and who’s intentions are good.
It’s learning to see yourself through the eyes of others who matter, to better understand yourself and truly grow.

-Kbeautifulmind

No true friend will EVER

My first friendship betrayal happened my freshmen year in HS.
After that situation my mom gave me this talk as I cried in her lap…
I rememeber it because I wrote it down in my diary that night, and litterly made myself learn it.
I use to allow people to walk all over me.
Throughout highschool whenever anyone pulled some crap on me, I cut them right out of my life.
I didn’t care if I ended up alone, I just didn’t believe in dealing with these kind of people.
I didn’t find it worthy.

“No true friend will EVER talk about you.
No true friend will EVER spill out your secrets and anything that you’ve told them confidently.
No true friend will EVER disrespect you, or try to embarrass you in front of others.
No true friend will EVER be jealous of you, be envious of anything you have, or secretly wish that you don’t succeed.
A true friend however might just tell you like it is at times, or what you don’t wish to hear.
BUT never in a way where they be little you or make you feel worse than you might already feel.
Last but not least, always step back and observe the person, see what their intentions are and WHY they desire to be in your life.
Usually if you watch, you can see right through them.
If they do any of this and claim that it’s because they are your friend, those are not friends mija. They are people who stick around because they want to either be you, or are hoping to have the joy of watching you fail.”
-Maricela Lopez
Basically, no true friend will EVER betray you.

Thank you momma for being such a wonderful role model, mother and friend!
Thanks to you I learned to cherish and appreciate the good people I have in my life and I do my best to be as good to them as I can be.
I mean we are all human, we’ve said stupid things we regret, or have made the mistake of taking others for granted.
However, I believe that when the behavior repeats it’s self, you shouldn’t have to continue to allow those people to stay in your life.
Just like baseball, 1, 2, 3 strikes you’re out!
-Kbeautifulmind

Life can be a bit stressful at times.

Situations can make you hopeless and at times make you want to just give up!

I got two word of advise for you…

“Be Joyful”

Life is a difficult journey but, besides that it is a beautiful journey and no matter what you are going through…

you are going to be okay.

As long as you are joyful…

hopeful…

you are going to be okay.

-Kbeautfulmind